Jealous/Envious: If you and your best friend made a promise back in the day that you would get married to the loves of your lives in the same year–congratulations if that really happens, but most likely it will not. If you’re last in the race to the altar, don’t get jealous of your friend–it will stunt your blessing from coming to fruition.
It’s so tempting to be jealous because they found love, are happy, and the attention is shifting from the single version of your go-to friend to a married friend that is building the foundation of a new family. You want what they want: the love, the attention, the excitement, but are you really ready for a commitment like marriage at this point in your life?
Not all of us are the same, neither are our destinies, so don’t be jealous of your friend during this time, for it will only birth works of the flesh that can do damage to your relationship and to yourself. One scripture to consider is: “You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.” James 4:2
Apathetic/Cynical: This can be a mixture of sad and jealous. You simply don’t care. You may not like the fiance, dislike marriage altogether, or don’t see yourself being married. Being apathetic about your friend being married (or hiding it at least) is a negative feeling. You may need to examine your life and see what the root of the problem is.
No, not everyone is going to get married nor want to, but at least show some support for the other person. Being married is a challenge on a whole ‘nother level that we singles cannot fathom. There are challenges, but Mr./Ms. Cynical, I need you to not dwell on those things. Even if you don’t believe in marriage, remember that it is a gift from God and an example of His great love for us.
“Be honest with yourself, talk to God, and be there for your friend in this new stage of their life.”
