Scenario 1
So, you get a call and on the other end of the line you hear a distressed friend in need except you don’t feel what they are going through is all that serious…
Scenario 2
You’re having a conversation and the person says to you “I’ve been through so much,” and proceeds to unload on you, but you do not hear anything so detrimental in what is being shared with you…
Sometimes our past pain and hurt can create a callousness within our spirits. The only thing we see are our own battle scars from our very own trials and tribulations, which we view to be far greater than the scars of the person sharing with us.
Never should there be a time when we evaluate what we have endured up against issues of others confiding in us.
Whether we respond and/or how we respond to others should never be contingent upon the extent of their pain. We need not look through the lenses of our trials and diminish others pain because it is not as detrimental as our very own.
God created each of us differently, which is why each of us handle our burdens in a different manner. There may be similarities in how we do things, but none of us do everything identically because that’s not how we were built. Our scars should not be bragging points; they are simple reminders of where we have been and what we overcame with God’s help through His grace and mercy.
We should encourage those who share with us without forcing our ways upon them. Every sharing experience does not require from us a counseling session and sermonette. We can say a lot by saying absolutely nothing at all.
Pray while you listen to them and allow God to give you the right words to share at the appropriate time.
I say this because we do not want to exude the I have it all together and know what’s best attitude nor should we give off the persona that our lives are perfect. Remember, you too faced your own trying times, so don’t become so insensitive and desensitized because you overcame your obstacles.
“Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits.” –Romans 12:16
It’s not about who suffered the most…pain is pain…
“Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.” –Romans 12:15
Be the voice of kindness and encouragement, you never know the depths of a person’s pain and what pit you are pulling people out of with your kind words, acts, and deeds…
“Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another.” –Romans 12:10
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Thank you Leigh for reading! Lynnette has many more great blogs under her author name!