Summer is here, BLISS fam! As people all over the world are either still recovering from the global pandemic, or reopening slowly and safely, singles are wondering what’s next when it comes to our options for having a vibrant and fulfilling life more than ever.
With that in mind, I wanted to talk with author and single influencer, David Bruehlmann! He recently debuted his new book, “Single for a Season: How to Be Single and Happy,” which is very fitting for single believers. We talked about several topics from #singlegoals to how to find contentment as a single, especially if you’ve been single for a long time. Check out our discussion here:
Interesting to consider singleness when you’re 64 years old. Single for 4 years as a widower, but due to a failed marriage after 29 years of marriage and nine children, I have been essentially single emotionally for many years. Since I believe the Lord has called us to the marriage commitment of till death to us part, I was still working to try and repair our marriage when my wife died of a heart attack.
My thought that I put out there is this: is there increased pressure on finding a soulmate and the time frame of remaining single because of the incredible failure in marriages, even Christian marriages. I know as I watch my children there is a great degree of hesitancy to commit because without proper foundation examples and thriving Christian relationships to model after, many young people are finding themselves challenged to choose a mate. I also find that many are compromising the principles that we are called to by choosing to overstep what we would call a courting style relationship and therefore enter into a spirit soul and body relationship without marriage. The goal I assume being at some point choosing to be married but this break with God’s design is in my opinion the beginning of the end of a relationship… Invariably they seem to fall apart or if marriage does happen, there are many layers of issues that may not have been dealt with had proper abstinence and courting being practiced.
Just some thoughts inspired by this topic of singleness for a season. Without doubt in hindsight I know that I was not content fully in the Lord nor understanding the purposes he had made me for, before I entered marriage and it created many pressures on the relationship. David clearly spoke to this potential issue happening. Better to be foresight then hindsight!!
Thank you Bruce for those thoughtful points and insight!