How I found purpose on the other side of divorce

Post by Keisha M.

Telling myself that “my story doesn’t matter” or “they don’t mean your type of story”, but I am giving in to this excuse or fear (however you would like to see it), and just share my testimony. God always reminds me that “it’s not about you,” so if just one person is set free from my story, and God gets the glory, then so be it.

I am a divorced mother with three beautiful children. When you get married, divorce is the LAST thing on your mind. Even with the statistics saying that 50% of marriages end in divorce, you never think that it will be you. I was married for seven years, and with my ex-husband for a total of 15 years. From the very beginning our relationship had no foundation, but being young, not having a strong example of what a healthy relationship looks like, and most of all not having the foundation of God in my life, in hindsight, and with the wisdom I have now, the relationship was doomed from the beginning.

After trying so hard to do what I knew to do to try and make my marriage work, I found out that my ex husband was on drugs. We tried to make the necessary changes for our marriage (i.e. him going to rehab), and that was successful for a little bit, but then the habits starting happening again. That is when I was on my last end, totally confused, and made the decision to seek God intentionally for the first time in my life. When I made the decision to do that, I will NEVER FORGET the verse that GOD brought me to:

“Since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything and the sin that so hinders, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” Hebrews 12:1-2a

I didn’t fully understand it then, but God was letting me know that He has a plan for my life, if I let Him take over. Also those “great cloud of witnesses” are my children! Since my divorce two and a half years ago, I have surrendered my life to Christ, forgiven my ex-husband, forgiven myself for past decisions in my life, and made some lifestyle choices to be in alignment with God’s purpose for my life. God has birthed through me an organization called Abundantly Authentic, an organization that encourages our young girls to practice having positive self esteem so they know their worth through Christ and how to participate in healthy relationships.

I thank God everyday for choosing me to be one of His. And for being God of purpose, promise, protection, and my ultimate provider. I thank Him that I have a past that I was able to learn from, a present to enjoy, and a future that He has promised me is full of abundance!

Keisha is an amazing mom and author! Be sure to connect with her on Instagram and her organization, Abundantly Authentic.