Is it safe to say that some things don’t need to be shared for everyone to see online? One of the most scrutinized kind of posts that people publish on the Internet these days is the list of requirements for a mate or what kind of person they are looking to marry.
We’ve seen this backfire on folks like influencer B. Simone earlier this year and most recently, someone named Apostle WisePreach. His extensive list of qualities that he was looking for in a “Proverbs 31 wife” went viral when people started to call him out on the details of his list that included specifics on height, prayer life, and skin tone. Kevonstage shared his take on Instagram:
After seeing these people get dragged brutally in the Internet streets, it’s wise to refrain from sharing what you’re looking for in a spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend. It’s simply something that no one needs to really know but your close circle of people who know you want a mate. WisePreach’s initial list on Facebook was edited down (over 20 times) to a more palatable list for public consumption, but the side-eyes have already been distributed, sir. His most recent list:
Even in dating etiquette, it’s not a good idea to have some list of demands that you’re not willing to meet yourself, which is what many promptly and bluntly reminded WisePreach to consider. Sharing lists like these on the web can come off the wrong way to others and cause offense. In an opinionated society that we live in, it’s only going to cause more stress for the person who made the post among people who have seen it and have something to say (like me, haha).
Instead of posting your list online, why don’t you just date the preference you want? Publishing a list of your desires in a mate is not required for you to receive them, just vet people who you date properly. Now, if you’re not getting what you want, that’s a whole different blog post.
One of the best things you can do regarding your personal list of qualities for a spouse is to submit them to God in your time with Him. I know from experience that He’s able to check you on that list and remind you to verify if what you want aligns with His word. Trust that He knows what you want, but trust the Father more to give you what you will need.
4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! 5 Let your gentle spirit [your graciousness, unselfishness, mercy, tolerance, and patience] be known to all people. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. 7 And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours]. Philppians 4:4-7 AMP
Hey BLISS fam! What are your thoughts about sharing your list of qualities that you’re looking for in a partner/spouse online? Are Apostle WisePreach’s list items unreasonable? Share below!
