Y’all, I’m honestly saying that I’m getting better at this waiting for marriage thing. I have a desire to be married, but the Lord through His Spirit has checked my motives, corrected me and matured me over the years to see what He sees about marriage.
Getting married and starting a family is not all about you, it’s your part in the bigger picture, God’s vision for your family line.
I’ve come to realize that my personal wait is part of my purpose in that the things that I now understand that any family cycles and dysfunctions are things that I can either take into my own future marriage or family, or take the steps for God to intervene and radically change the course of my family line forever.
Have you ever noticed issues or patterns in your family and prayed that your future didn’t have those issues or dysfunctions?
God in His sovereign wisdom allows us to be single long enough to mature us for His view of our marriage, not our views or expectations.
Phew! This makes sense to the believer who prays for God’s divine will to be done in their lives. Selah on that today.
It’s not easy but it’s not impossible, and once we get that, we can see that it’s worth waiting, it’s worth doing the work, it’s worth the healing process. There’s a lot at stake in the future because of the decisions we make today. If I had gotten married when I wanted to, when I was lonely, when I got tired of waiting, which all means when I wasn’t mature yet or content, I wouldn’t be able to handle the realities of godly marriage and raising a family the way God wants me to. I would be repeating the negative things because that was my default, but now that I know better, I have the choice to go about things God’s way.
That’s the point of it all in this life: it’s all about Him. When we focus sincerely on Him, our expectations won’t matter, our desires turn into His, our way of handling life will be better. Our wait for marriage will have more peace and less anxiety and the feelings of purposelessness.
The Father knows us best, and while the word says there’s no good thing that He will withhold from us, we have to be ready and able to receive the good thing. We can’t receive it if we can’t recognize it or if we are holding on to something else.
Whatever reason God may have you waiting for marriage longer than you think you should, consider your level of contentment in this season. Join me, Kristin Kimble, Russelyn Williams and Lisa Gordon for this special webinar on the topics of contentment, marriage and more on Tuesday, March 20th. Click Here to RSVP
