When waiting gets real! My story and q&a on celibacy for my YouTube channel: Journey Through 30
Many thanks to the ladies at Blush Women’s Ministry. I was asked to share my sexual abstinence/celibacy journey as well as answer common questions that women of faith of all ages may have.
Here are books and resources that I mentioned in this message:
Legs Down, Prayers Up by Brandi N. Williams: http://amzn.to/
Journey to 30: A Single Woman’s Guide to Living Unapologetically Without Deadlines by Tatianah Green: http://amzn.to/2CyKdQT
Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is by Joshua Harris: http://amzn.to/2F6wrqr
Myrlande Desulme’s blog, iWaited, features couples who dated and waited God’s way: https://iwaitedblog.
Great video Tatianah! A point I’m not sure you brought up, but I always wonder, do you think it’s necessary to seek a man who has tried celibacy for himself? Do you think it’s unequally yoked if he wasn’t intending on being celibate? Our churches don’t place much of an importance for men in the church for purity, the purity aspect is very female centered which I think isn’t fair.
Yeah I totally agree that it’s not fair. To answer your question in short, yes we should wait for a man who’s actively pursuing purity and waiting because it shows several aspects of his character. You can always talk to people who he knows well who’d testify about his character too.
I would respect a man’s decision to wait or not out of politeness, but you wouldn’t be on the same page in that area = unequally yoked.
It’s because if he’s not interested in being celibate but wants to date you or any woman who’s waiting, then someone will have to compromise. We can’t assume just because they haven’t waited before that they wont, we just have to proceed with caution and be upfront about where we stand and not change our stance on the wait. Encourage and pray for the brother, sharing resources and prayers. But if he’s adamant about not waiting then yeah, no need to go further with that guy.